Questions & answers

No. Abuse is not only physical, and you do not need to prove anything to reach out. Many people call because something feels wrong and they want to talk it through. That is a good enough reason.

No. Services are available whether you are staying, thinking about leaving, or already gone. Advocates will not pressure you toward a decision, and safety planning works in every one of those situations.

No. All services at Maxine's Arms are provided at no cost to survivors.

No. You do not need a police report, a protective order, or documentation of any kind to receive services.

Yes. Maxine's Arms shelters individuals and families, and provides age-appropriate therapeutic support and trauma-informed activities for children exposed to violence or abuse.

Talk to an advocate. Threats to pets are a recognized part of abuse and a common reason people delay leaving, and advocates can look into safe-haven fostering options in the community.

Abuse happens to people of every gender, and everyone deserves support. Contact an advocate to talk about what Maxine's Arms can provide directly and what it can arrange through community partners.

Say that you believe them, that it is not their fault, and that you are not going anywhere. Avoid ultimatums — people who are being isolated need one relationship that has no conditions attached. Ask what would be helpful rather than telling them what to do.

No. Leaving is rarely a single event, and the period around leaving is the most dangerous. Staying in contact and staying non-judgmental is the single most useful thing you can do.

Yes. You can call an advocate to talk through the situation and understand the options, even if the person is not ready. Advocates can help you help them.